That’s me.

Back again.

Took a few hits overseas, have been recovering.

Made some choices. Still making some.

Ambivalent about continuing this blog.

Going to ask my gf to marry me, and I know she doesn’t like this blog. I know she’d like me to shut it down. Heck, I admit that’s one of the reasons why I was so slow to resurrect it — it wasn’t just taking some shrapnel, though that was a big piece.

Don’t give a good God-da*n about what most women think, but, strangely, with her, do. Call me a fool.

The blog is a hassle to keep up; it’s small traffic, and mostly amongst what she calls “frenemies”. True, I guess, in that most of you detest what I have to say about … well, everything.

Going to also work on another book (no, my first book sold 4k or so copies, not so cool). Can’t really use a MABTW-derived blog to promote my book. Sucks.

Marriage, book, should I continue posting here?

You call it via posts and emails.


6 Responses to “Incorrigible.”

  1. Sam Adams says:

    Welcome back, wolfe. Good to see your presence again. I received your PM and will reply later privately at length. Regarding the blog, I always enjoy reading it, mostly to be challenged by your ideas and opinions, and while I don’t always agree with what you say (I’d say probably about 50% of the time), it’s always thoughtful and you usually express it or defend it well.

    But if the blog is a time sucker at the expense of your real life, well, I think you know the answer to that, especially if you’re lucky enough to have found a good woman you love and whose opinion you respect.

    I’m not at all sentimental when it comes to that sort of thing (been married nearly a quarter of a century, and the experience has ranged from bliss to torment, but it’s very good now) and I generally don’t advocate marriage for men, but if a couple insists on marrying, that should be their focus, especially at the beginning.

    (For the record, I dislike pontificating in this vein because I don’t know you personally and this feels a bit personal, so I’m going to back off at this point.)

    As far as maintaining a blog, I myself don’t have one for two very good reasons. I don’t have enough to say to make it worthwhile, and even if I did, I don’t have the time or the wherewithal to maintain it. I have several strictly Web 1.0 web sites (in all their pre-1999 static HTML glory) and once in a while I’ll put up a paragraph here and there, and that’s enough for me. I can’t imagine the pressure of writing a new topic every few days and commenting on my poster’s comments, if I were lucky enough to have a readership, not to mention the work involved in trying to publicize the site by affiliating with other bloggers.

    So wolfe, my point is that the work you put into the blog is largely invisible to nearly everyone. It takes time, sometimes hours, to compose and post a topic and only minutes to read it. (YMMV. I can only speak for myself. I write slowly because I agonize over every word and can’t proofread my own work to save my life. Sorta ironic because I write for a living.) Knowing this, I’m impressed you’ve stuck with it as long as you have.

    On the other hand, you may consider keeping the blog but only posting new topics and not posting your comments — although I seem to recall you tried that and it got a bit out of control. Well, maybe that’s not a good idea after all.

    In the long run, a blog is ephemeral. The time one spends on it may be enjoyable, but it doesn’t result in anything really tangible. If you decide to take it down, I’ll be sorry to see it go but I’ll completely understand. Real life always comes first.

  2. Danny says:

    Glad you are recovering.

    On marriage…I suggest marriage only if someone is planning to have children. If they have reasons which are sound though, I say go for it. Regardless, congratulations.

    On the book & blog…If you have any conversation about politics you are sure to have people who disagree. So I’m sure you’ll always have “frenemies” wherever you might make a blog which has political or social discussion. I suppose some sort of reconciliation may be possible if you are at least using your time to promote a book or yourself. It might be easier for her to see that time as well spent as opposed to only time apart. I don’t see you as really owing anything to your readership; which reads ad-free and doesn’t have to pay anything. I will certainly miss reading your work though.

  3. wolfe says:

    Thanks Danny and Sam. I appreciate the wisdom of your comments.

    I may have more to say, but for now, in a rush; that’s it.

  4. Sparky says:

    Well, I pretty much agreed with much of you said. Even on gender issues.

    I agree with Sam when he said this:

    “But if the blog is a time sucker at the expense of your real life, well, I think you know the answer to that, especially if you’re lucky enough to have found a good woman you love and whose opinion you respect. ”

    I for one, think if this woman is it for you, the only one, go for it. I never married because the buck just didn’t seem to stop with who I was with in the past. And faced with an inevitable proposal, I backed out completely. Next year, after meeting someone where the buck stopped, i will most likely take the plunge. After I finish my degree. He is my match.

    You always seemed enthralled by your lady and that is important. You have my full support on any decision you make.

  5. Teri says:

    You should do what you like. If you feel this blog is troublesome, then stop. I don’t get the “to keep blogging or not to keep blogging” question, because to me ~ it’s just a thing to do when you have the time and energy to contribute. It’s like an old friend. Hold on loosely, but don’t let go. But again, that’s just me.

    It’s odd that your lady doesn’t like you to maintain this blog. I realize you don’t give a rat’s ass about what women think, but I have always been under the impression that this blog meant something to you. And when a partner wants the other partner to give up something, then it spells trouble to me.

    Just my fifty cents.

    Much happiness to you and your lady.

  6. Sam Adams says:

    Don’t know if this will ever get back to you in real life. I saw the phantom of your blog and wanted to give you best wishes for long life and happiness. Many happy memories corresponding with you. Write me if you want to chat briefly.

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